Constance Ore is a retired Teacher, Choir Director, and Organist. And a formidable cook.

September 8, 2009

Filed under: — Constance at 11:02 pm on Wednesday, September 9, 2009


Yesterday unofficially closed summer, and at Sanctuary, in the natural world that surrounds us, we see daily change everywhere. A wolf spider carries her entire brood of eggs on her back as she hurries into hiding, looking like she wears a chenille sweater, and this year, we have mushrooms of all kinds coming up under the trees, in the paths, and in the grasses. I have never studied mushrooms to know about which are edible, or which are poisonous, so I leave all of them alone.


For several years, Charles has been trying to coax a trumpet vine to become a beautiful green arbor that would signal our yard path’s ending and the beginning of the walk toward pasture and woodland. Trumpet vines have a reputation for being aggressive, but Charles felt that there should be enough space, and we both enjoy the bright orange blossoms that it can put forth. Year after year, this plant has refused to follow the structure of the arbor – instead it has flung branches upward and outward as though it were seeking something far grander. This year, it reached outward to the cedar tree to the east, and in satisfaction, actually put forth several blossoms. “Something has to change” says gardener Charles, and I don’t know if he plans on snipping stems, moving the arbor, or building something to accommodate the plant’s intentions.


Tomorrow I return to the doctor looking for help out of this present state of perpetual flu-like symptoms of aches, nausea, and dreadful weariness. I sleep a lot, ingest painkillers, and consider blood that is forgetting how to do its work properly. It is not life as I want it to be, and it includes moments when I would like to weep and wail and kick trees – only the practical voice in my head delays me as it points out that swollen eyes, a sore throat and bruised feet would not change a single molecule of the present reality. Fortunately, the days are filled with sunlight and grand weather, and each one has some thing to behold, or hear, or experience. Today included sighting a pinkish-orange sun rising through a grey-blue morning mist, a telephone conversation with a dear offspring, and laughter with Charles as he recounted some of his teaching experiences.

We always have hope and the comfort of faith that includes acceptance of what life contains. Therefore the prayers go on, “Guide us waking, O Lord, and guard us sleeping that awake we may watch with Christ and asleep we may rest in peace” and the spiritual songs continue to sound. In the hymn “The Day Thou Gavest” the poet says “The day thou gavest, Lord, is ended, The darkness falls at thy behest; To thee our morning hymns ascended, thy praise shall hallow now our rest. As o’er each continent and island the dawn leads on another day. The voice of prayer is never silent, nor dies the strain of praise away. The sun, that bids us rest is waking thy children under western skies, And hour by hour, as day is breaking, Fresh hymns of thankful praise arise”. These are small examples of the many that accompany me on my journey.

5 Comments

Comment by Joyce Niedner Greene

September 10, 2009 @ 7:32 am

Beautifully written and beautifully lived. It is a gift to so many of us that you are living this part of your life out loud. Thank you for your continuing example of grace and faith and humor and life. I am praying for your comfort.
Joyce Niedner Greene

Comment by dick gale

September 11, 2009 @ 4:28 pm

Hi Connie and all — Through the many things passing through our life right now, one clear constant is you and yours in our prayers and thoughts.

Susan’s garden is finally “tomato-ed out,” but there are still limas, some peppers, and tons and tons of black kale.

We’ll have a chance to check on the other ocean in a week or so — tomorrow we head for NYC (where I’ll cook dinners for Susan in an Upper West Side B&B studio apartment)for a week. Then it’s 4 nights on the Jersey Shore (pronounced, I think, “show-are”) where I’ll cook dinners for her in motel studio apartments in Cape May and Spray Beach/Long Beach Island. (Susan’s family vacationed on the Shore when she lived near Philadelphia.)

Thus, prayers and thoughts from us will reach you from the east!!

Warmest best to you all,

dick and susan gale

Comment by Judith Enright

September 12, 2009 @ 11:18 am

Connie — For the past year I’ve been living with AML (which originated with MDS) and one thing I’ve decided, with my doctors’ and family’s blessings, is that using oxycodone and red blood transfusions keep me enjoying the present in a way that would otherwise be elusive. Call me a wimp, but as long as these options are available to me, they contribute to increased energy and well-being. Every day our pups (much like your Alphie) show me that moment-to-moment living is precious and my goal is to take advantage of that in any way possible. So, please, don’t be afraid to ask for what you need to feel better. My heart and thoughts are with you, as is my admiration for your recognition of the beauty you find and create around you.

Judith

Comment by Rhoda Houge

September 15, 2009 @ 11:45 am

I love that hymn, and I will always think of you when I hear it. Thank you for sharing that.

Comment by Carol Roden

September 15, 2009 @ 1:05 pm

Mrs. Ore – I have been following your blog since I “found” you in December 2007. My Mom had been diagnosed with MDS, which progressed to AML before she began the MDS treatment, and I was frantically searching the web for everything I could learn. Through the months that followed, I often turned to your wonderful accounts for the hope and inspiration that they always conveyed.

My Mom was very much like you in that she found life to be an absolutely joyous adventure. Although the intensive chemo treatment didn’t work for Mom and we lost her 5 months later, those were some of the most precious months of my life and we had a wonderful time! Fortunately she felt remarkably well until very close to the end, and we took advantage of it to travel, to spend lots of time with family, and to laugh. We also had the time to make sure that there were no words left unspoken, and what a gift that is. I miss her more than I can begin to say, but being able to follow you through your enjoyment of the pleasures of life here has been a great source of comfort for me. I am so grateful for your sharing of your love of life, and your battle with this disease. You are an amazing woman and it is clear that is no secret to those who know you…and even many of us that don’t! I will continue to follow your journey and I will keep you in my prayers. I just wanted to say thank you so very much for your courage and grace…and especially your willingness to share your experience with others for whom it has meant so much.

God bless you,
Carol

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